Friday, April 4, 2008

Homosexuality in Europe


The earliest Western documents (in the form of literary works,
art objects, as well as mythographic materials)
concerning same-sex relationships are derived from ancient Greece.
They depict a world in which relationships with
women and relationships with youths were
the essential foundation of a normal man's love life.


Same-sex relationships were a social institution variously constructed over time and from one city to another. The practice, a system of relationships between an adult male and an adolescent coming of age, was often valued for its pedagogic benefits and as a means of population control, and occasionally blamed for causing disorder. Plato praised its benefits in his early writings, but in his late works proposed its prohibition.

In Rome, the pagan emperor Hadrian allegedly practiced homosexuality himself, but the Christian emperor Theodosius I decreed a law on August 6, 390, condemning passive homosexual people to be burned at the stake. Justinian, towards the end of his reign, expanded the proscription to the active partner as well (in 558), warning that such conduct can lead to the destruction of cities through the "wrath of God". Notwithstanding these regulations, taxes on brothels of boys available for homosexual sex continued to be collected until the end of the reign of Anastasius I in 518.

During the Renaissance, rich cities in northern Italy, Florence and Venice in particular, were renowned for their widespread practice of same-sex love, engaged in by a considerable part of the male population and constructed along the classical pattern of Greece and Rome.

But even as many of the male population were engaging in same-sex relationships, the authorities, under the aegis of the Officers of the Night court, were prosecuting, fining, and imprisoning a good portion of that population. The eclipse of this period of relative artistic and erotic freedom was precipitated by the rise to power of the moralizing monk Girolamo Savonarola.

In northern Europe the artistic discourse on sodomy was turned against its proponents by artists such as Rembrandt, who in his Rape of Ganymede no longer depicted Ganymede as a willing youth, but as a squalling baby attacked by a rapacious bird of prey.

The relationships of socially prominent figures, such as King James I and the Duke of Buckingham, served to highlight the issue, including in anonymously authored street pamphlets: "The world is chang'd I know not how, For men Kiss Men, not Women now;...Of J. the First and Buckingham: He, true it is, his Wives Embraces fled, To slabber his lov'd Ganimede;" (Mundus Foppensis, or The Fop Display'd, 1691.)

Love Letters Between a Certain Late Nobleman and the Famous Mr. Wilson was published in 1723 in England and was presumed to be a novel by some modern scholars. The 1749 edition of John Cleland's popular novel Fanny Hill includes a homosexual scene, but this was removed in its 1750 edition.

Also in 1749, the earliest extended and serious defense of homosexuality in English, Ancient and Modern Pederasty Investigated and Exemplified, written by Thomas Cannon, was published, but was suppressed almost immediately.

It includes the passage, "Unnatural Desire is a Contradiction in Terms; downright Nonsense. Desire is an amatory Impulse of the inmost human Parts." Around 1785 Jeremy Bentham wrote another defense, but this was not published until 1978. Executions for sodomy continued in the Netherlands until 1803, and in England until 1835.

Between 1864 and 1880 Karl Heinrich Ulrichs published a series of twelve tracts, which he collectively titled Research on the Riddle of Man-Manly Love. In 1867 he became the first self-proclaimed homosexual person to speak out publicly in defense of homosexuality when he pleaded at the Congress of German Jurists in Munich for a resolution urging the repeal of anti-homosexual laws.


Sir Richard Francis Burton's Terminal Essay, Part IV/D appendix in his translation of The Book of the Thousand Nights and a Night (1885–86) provided an effusive overview of homosexuality in the Middle East and tropics. Sexual Inversion by Havelock Ellis, published in 1896, challenged theories that homosexuality was abnormal, as well as stereotypes, and insisted on the ubiquity of homosexuality and its association with intellectual and artistic achievement. Appendix A included A Problem in Greek Ethics by John Addington Symonds, which had been privately distributed in 1883. Beginning in 1894 with Homogenic Love, Socialist activist and poet Edward Carpenter wrote a string of pro-homosexual articles and pamphlets, and "came out" in 1916 in his book My Days and Dreams.

In 1900, Elisar von Kupffer published an anthology of homosexual literature from antiquity to his own time, Lieblingminne und Freundesliebe in der Weltliteratur. His aim was to broaden the public perspective of homosexuality beyond it being viewed simply as a medical or biological issue, but also as an ethical and cultural one.

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In ancient Greece

In classical antiquity, writers such as Herodotus, Plato, Xenophon, Athenaeus and many others explored aspects of same-sex love in ancient Greece. The most widespread and socially significant form of close same-sex sexual relations in ancient Greece was between adult men and adolescent boys, known as pederasty. It is unclear how such relations between women were regarded in the general society, but examples do exist as far back as the time of Sappho.

The ancient Greeks did not conceive of sexual orientation as a social identifier, as Western societies have done for the past century. Greek society did not distinguish sexual desire or behavior by the gender of the participants, but by the extent to which such desire or behavior conformed to social norms. These norms were based on gender, age and social status. There is little extant source material on how females viewed sexual activity.

There are two main views of male sexual activity in ancient Greek society. Some scholars, such as Kenneth Dover and David Halperin, claim that it was highly polarized into "active" and "passive" partners, penetrator and penetrated, an active/passive polarization held to be associated with dominant and submissive social roles: the active (penetrative) role was associated with masculinity, higher social status, and adulthood, while the passive role was associated with femininity, lower social status, and youth.

In this view, any sexual activities in which a male penetrated a social inferior was regarded as normal; "social inferiors" could include women, male youths, foreigners, prostitutes, or slaves; and being penetrated, especially by a social inferior, was considered potentially shameful.

Other scholars, however, argue that male-male relations usually involved an adult male and a youth: the older male took the active (penetrative) role. They also describe them as "warm," "loving," and "affectionate," and argue that the Greek tradition of same-sex relations was central to "Greek history and warfare, politics, art, literature and learning, in short to the Greek miracle."

Pederasty

The most common form of same-sex relationships between males in Greece was "paiderastia" meaning "boy love". It was a relationship between an older male and an adolescent youth. In Athens the older man was called erastes, he was to educate, protect, love, and provide a role model for his beloved. His beloved was called eromenos whose reward for his lover lay in his beauty, youth, and promise.

Elaborate social protocols existed to protect youths from the shame associated with being sexually penetrated. The eromenos was supposed to respect and honor the erastes, but not to desire him sexually. Although being courted by an older man was practically a rite of passage for young men, a youth who was seen to reciprocate the erotic desire of his erastes faced considerable social stigma.

The ancient Greeks, in the context of the pederastic city-states, were the first to describe, study, systematize, and establish pederasty as a social and educational institution. It was an important element in civil life, the military, philosophy and the arts. There is some debate among scholars about whether pederasty was widespread in all social classes, or largely limited to the aristocracy.

The morality of pederasty was closely investigated in ancient Greece, some aspects being considered base and others idealized as the best that life had to offer. In Plato's Laws, carnal pederasty is described as "contrary to nature"; however, the speakers in this dialogue acknowledge that an effort to abolish pederasty would be unpopular in most Greek city-states

In Military

The Sacred Band of Thebes, a separate military unit reserved only for men and their beloved youths, is usually considered as the prime example of how the ancient Greeks used love between soldiers in a troop to boost their fighting spirit. The Thebans attributed to the Sacred Band the power of Thebes for the generation before its fall to Philip II of Macedon, who was so impressed with their bravery during battle, he erected a monument that still stands today on their gravesite. He also gave a harsh criticism of the Spartan views of the band:

"Perish miserably they who think that these men did or suffered aught disgraceful."
Pammenes' opinion, according to Plutarch, was that

"Homer's Nestor was not well skilled in ordering an army when he advised the Greeks to rank tribe and tribe... he should have joined lovers and their beloved. For men of the same tribe little value one another when dangers press; but a band cemented by friendship grounded upon love is never to be broken."

These bonds, reflected in episodes from Greek mythology, such as the heroic relationship between Achilles and Patroclus in the Iliad, were thought to boost morale as well as bravery. They typically took the form of pederasty, with more egalitarian relationships being rarer. Such relationships were documented by many Greek historians and in philosophical discourses, as well as in offhand remarks such as Philip II of Macedon's recorded by Plutarch demonstrates:

"It is not only the most warlike peoples, the Boeotians, Spartans, and Cretans, who are the most susceptible to this kind of love but also the greatest heroes of old: Meleager, Achilles, Aristomenes, Cimon, and Epaminondas."

During the Lelantine War between the Eretrians and the Chalcidians, before a decisive battle the Chalcidians called for the aid of a warrior named Cleomachus. He answered their request, bringing his lover to watch. Leading the charge against the Eretians he brought the Chalcidians to victory at the cost of his own life. The Chalcidians erected a tomb for him in the marketplace in gratitude, and adopted pederasty.

Love Between Adult Man

Given the importance in Greek society of cultivating the masculinity of the adult male and the perceived feminizing effect of being the passive partner, relations between adult men of comparable social status were considered highly problematic, and usually associated with social stigma. However, examples of such couples are occasionally found in the historical record.

Achilles and Patroclus

Achilles and Patroclus The first recorded appearance of a deep emotional bond between adult men in ancient Greek culture was in the Iliad (800 BC). Although Homer does not explicitly depict the relationship between Achilles and Patroclus as sexual, by the beginning of the Classical era (480 BC) the two heroes were interpretated as pederastic icons. Since the ancient Greeks were uncomfortable with any perception of Patroclus and Achilles as adult equals, they tried to establish a clear age difference between the two. There was disagreement on whom to make the erastes and whom the eromenos, since the Homeric tradition made Patroclus out to be older but Achilles dominant. Other ancients held that Achilles and Patroclus were simply close friends.

Aeschylus in the tragedy Myrmidons made Achilles the protector since he had avenged his love’s death even though the gods told him it would cost his own life. However Phaedrus asserts that Homer emphasized the beauty of Achilles which would qualify him, not Patroclus, as “eromenos”.

Historical adult male couples

Many historical male couples are known, where both partners were adults. Among these are Euripides, in his seventies, and Agathon, already in his forties. The legendary love between Alexander the Great and his childhood friend, Hephaistion is generally regarded as being of the same order.

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In Ancient Rome

Sources for Ancient Roman homosexual practice, and attitudes and acceptance of it are abundantly available. There are literary works, poems, graffiti and comments on the sexual predelictions of single emperors. Graphic representations are, on the other hand, rarer in ancient Rome than in classical Greece. Attitudes towards homosexuality changed over the time and from context to context, ranging from strong condemnation to quite open acceptance. Indeed, it was also purported to be one of the cultural facts of certain provinces.

In discussing such attitudes, it is fundamental to recall that the term "homosexuality" is entirely problematic for the ancient world since there is no single word in either Latin or ancient Greek with the same meaning as the modern concept of homosexuality. Although it again and again becomes apparent that bisexuality was more the norm, even the ancient authors agree that there were ancient Roman men who had sexual relations exclusively with men.

Empire

Though perhaps not the originator of the practice, the emperor Nero appears to have been the first Roman emperor to marry a male. According to Edward Gibbon, writing in 1776, of the first twelve emperors only Claudius was exclusively involved with women. All others took either boys or men as lovers. This drew criticism from other Romans, such as Suetonius.

Pederasty largely lost its status as a ritual part of education — a process already begun by the increasingly sophisticated and cosmopolitan Greeks — and was instead seen as an activity primarily driven by one's sexual desires and competing with desire for women. The social acceptance of pederastic relations waxed and waned during the centuries. Conservative thinkers condemned it — along with other forms of indulgence. Tacitus attacks the Greek customs of "gymnasia et otia et turpes amores" (palaestrae, idleness, and shameful loves).

Other writers spent no effort censuring pederasty per se, but praised or blamed its various aspects. Martial appears to have favored it, going as far as to essentialize not the sexual use of the catamite but his nature as a boy: upon being discovered by his wife "inside a boy" and offered the "same thing" by her.


he retorts with a list of mythological personages who, despite being married, took young male lovers, and concludes by rejecting her offer since "a woman merely has two vaginas." Among the Romans, pederasty reached its last zenith during the time of hellenophile emperor Hadrian. A man whose passion for boys paralleled that of his predecessor, Trajan, he fell in love with Antinous, a young teenage Greek, and had his eromenos deified upon the latter's premature death. Elagabalus had numerous male lovers and even married one of these in a public ceremony.

Roles and preferences

While it was the norm in Greece and Rome that the younger partner was passive and the older active, there is (especially from the Roman period) evidence that older men preferred the passive role. Martial describes, for example, the case of an older man who played the passive role and let a younger slave occupy the active role. Often it was also assumed that only the active participant gained pleasure from sexual intercourse. In general, the passive role was equated with the role of a woman and therefore felt to be rather low. Suetonius reported that the Emperor Nero, in taking the passive sexual role with the freedmen Doryphorus, imitated the screams and whimpering of a young woman.

Men taking the passive role were often liable to be accused to take too much care of their appearance to attract and please potential active partners. Such men were usually shown in a negative light, having the word kinaidos / cinaedus applied to them (which could also be applied to eunuchs).

There are also other examples. Again Suetonius reported that Emperor Galba felt drawn to strong and experienced men. More than once it is reported that soldiers were sexually assaulted by their higher officers.

In addition to repeatedly described anal intercourse, there is also plenty of evidence that oral sex was normal. Here graffiti from Pompeii is unambiguous: "Secundus is a cocksucker of rare ability." In contrast to ancient Greece, a large penis was a major element in attractiveness. In Petronius is a description of how a man with such a large penis in a public bathroom looked up, excited. Several emperors are reported in a negative light for surrounding themselves with men with large sexual organs.

Subculture

There are at least some signs that something approaching a homosexual subculture was already starting to develop in ancient Rome, although it certainly does not compare with modern subcultures. In Rome around 200 BC there was already a road where male prostitutes preferred staying[11], specialising in either the passive or active role. Other men searched for sailors in the vicinity of districts close to the Tiber. Public baths are also referred to as a place to find sexual partners. Juvenal states that such men scratched their heads with a finger to identify themselves.


With the arrival of Christianity, but perhaps also a little earlier, all kinds of same-sex love became increasingly taboo. In 390, the first law banning same-sex love was enacted, making it punishable by death.

The circumstances surrounding the massacre of Thessaloniki at the end of the 4th century post offers a clue that even in the Christian era homosexuality itself was still accepted in large parts of the population, while officially prosecuted. A popular wagon driver was accused of having sexually harassed an army-commander or servant of the emperor. The wagon driver was arrested, but pointed out there was unrest, as the people of the town were calling for his release. The wagon driver also enjoyed great popularity despite his homosexuality

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Last night talking


Last night i went to my boyfriend house in bogor City
and stay there for a night. we talked about sex.
we are versatile.


i dont like to be bottomed actually.
but i let him to be top more than i topped him.
coz he still does not get used to of being bottomed.

he's got a horse dick, hahaha and i like to suck his 6.9" cut dick
and mine is uncut, 6.3"
we were watching a "threesome" gay porn dvd after finished our game.
and i said to him about threesome.



his respond was just
"why? are u not getting satisfied with me?
so you want more guy"
and i said it's not that way.
but i just wanna try and feel the sensation
of threesome game.


he never and dislike threesome
feels like wierdo.
he like more private of merely 2 persons in action.

but i convinced him already,
and he's agreed with me.

he said
"ok we'll do it, but promise me you just have to tell me first about
the guy that will be our partner game, if i said ok, well, we'll do it then"
and i'm very satisfied with this answer.
and i've found a man who deserve to be with us for next saturday.

it's gonna be fun! yes!!!!!

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Perfect guy


i've been searching about this guy all the time, but i dont know exactly who is he?
i dont even know his real name, i just know that he's called Damon.

He is student of Medical College of Wisconsin,
Attended 2007 - Present, Class of 2008, Bachelor's Degree
and his zodiac is Leo, live in Wausau, WI. his Hometown is Ontario, Canada.
he loves gym and sport.

he is the perfect image of a handsome guy i've ever seen
his eyes, nose or shape of his face, all part of him
are perfect, except his dick.


well, i guess his dick seems just the average size.
and it's ok, he is still cool whatever his dick size.
does anyone know more about him?







Monday, March 31, 2008

Tattoo & piercing




i love tattoo, may be i will make a small tattoo later at my arm,
or may be at under of my belly bottom.
seems so art! we are here in Bandung city has a great tattoo shop.
but i just havent found the sign that i really like.


gue suka bangat tato, pengen juga tato
cuma belum ketemu sign yang benar benar tepat buat gua
kalao bener dapet
pengen juga tatu
bareng orang yang gue cintai selama ini
itu juga kalau die setuju.




karena ella gua rasanya gak suka hal hal seperti ini
sayangnya mata orang ngerasa orang bertatu
kurang berimage.




Tattoo

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i also like piercing, i have a piercing at my ear.
and i will piercing my 2nipples too
in the future.
i must find the stand that really expert
of doing this.
hahahha yeah seems so freaking me.
but i do really want to do it.



also watch this videos:
seems not hurt anyway.
coolness!









also watch this self pearcing:



seems so seductive when piercing nipple.
with no bleeding

Sunday, March 30, 2008

He makes me fall in love again



When i 1# saw his picture, i just thought "Wow!"
He is the most handsome american actor.
so i must put his pictures here in my blog as my collection.
ok just take a look on his data:

Jesse Eden Metcalfe (born December 9, 1978) is an American actor, most known for
his role on Desperate Housewives as John Rowland. He is also notable for his
portrayal of Miguel Lopez-Fitzgerald on the soap opera Passions.


Metcalfe was born in California to Scott Metcalfe and Nancy DeMaio;
his father is of French and Italian descent,
and his mother is of Portuguese and Italian descent.


Jesse Metcalfe, who played in several basketball leagues
during his teen years, grew up an only child in Waterford,
Connecticut and graduated from The Williams School, in New London,
CT, but dropped out of New York University's Tisch School of
the Arts in order to pursue a career as a writer/director.

Was recently involved in an altercation with a rapper named Mams.


Metcalfe met Irish, Girls Aloud member, Nadine Coyle in February 2006,
and the pair started dating. On 21 April 2007 Metcalfe's publicist confirmed
the couple had split and denied Metcalfe had cheated on
Coyle after his stint in rehab, which Coyle later confirmed
on Saturday Night With Miriam,
saying they had already split before
pictures were taken of Metcalfe with another woman



Awards and nomination
2000 Nominations= Soap Opera Digest Award: "Favorite Teen Star" (Passions)
2004 Wins= Actor: "Outstanding Performance by an Ensemble in a Comedy Series" (Desperate Housewives)
2005 Nominations= Teen Choice Award: "Choice TV Actor: Comedy" (Desperate Housewives)
Teen Choice Award: "Choice TV Breakout Performance - Male" (Desperate Housewives)

Career


Metcalfe moved to Los Angeles and attended an open casting call, successfully auditioning for the NBC soap opera Passions. He played Miguel Lopez-Fitzgerald, one of five siblings, from the show's debut in July 1999 -July 2004. He left Passions because he felt that he "wasn't really going to get anything more out of it."

In late 2003 and early 2004, Metcalfe made two guest appearances on the WB Network TV series Smallville as vindictive "meteor freak hunter" Van McNulty.

Metcalfe returned to television as the teenage gardener John Rowland on the popular ABC TV drama Desperate Housewives, where his character had a secret relationship with housewife Gabrielle Solis played by Eva Longoria, since the series' debut in October 2004. This was the role that made Metcalfe a household name, and he immediately gained attention for his well-toned body, particularly his smooth and muscular pectorals, emphasised by the fact that he appeared shirtless in almost every scene he was in. USA Today in November 2004 named him "the [show's] hottest sex symbol".

Jesse Metcalfe as John Rowland on Desperate HousewivesHowever, his character was reduced to a recurring role because Metcalfe wanted to move on to other projects. He has only appeared in a few episodes of the 2nd season, 1 of the 3rd season, and 1 of the current season. However, he has stated that he will continue to make guest appearances in future seasons.

He sang 'Hey Jude' on the Soap Sessions 3: Beatlesongs CD!

Metcalfe is the fifth victim and the fifth star to appear on Punk'd more than once, after Ben McKenzie, Wilmer Valderrama, Omarion, and Jesse McCartney. His first appearance was when Metcalfe and Ashton Kutcher punk'd Eva Longoria for stealing thousands of dollars and fraud (false identity). His second is when Metcalfe was punk'd by Ashton Kutcher's crew members during the Spider-Man 3 audition. Metcalfe also appeared in 3 Doors Down "Let Me Go" video.

Metcalfe's first film role is in John Tucker Must Die, alongside Ashanti and One Tree Hill's Sophia Bush, in which he plays a wealthy and insincere teenage playboy high school basketball player. The film opened on July 28, 2006.

Jesse hosted The New Paul O'Grady Show on October 26, 2006, because Paul was taking the week off on doctor's orders. Jesse had previously been interviewed on the show twice before.

He is set to appear in 2008 movies American Cowslip as Jay, The Other End of the Line as Granger Woodriff, Insanitarium and Loaded as Tristan Price.




just watch him on youtube:




John Tucker Must Die Jesse Metcalfe interview: